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Feb 14, 2023Liked by Charlotte Dune

I love this line “let’s get everyone involved in this spending” haha. As a mom it drives me nuts when the school wants everyone to bring in small toys or stickers for Valentine’s Day. More spending. More plastic waste.

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Yes! I was kind of glad when my daughter’s school put a stop to that and said paper cards only. Like sorry kids, candy all day is not conducive to learning!

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Yup, hate Valentine’s Day ... but so does my wife. We’ve got other ways of stoking the fires.

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❤️❤️❤️❤️ haha another article would be “Why do men hate Valentine’s Day?” I genuinely wonder... Why do you think it is?

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I can only speak for myself, but I’ll say that the contrived, pre-formulated ways to express love generally associated with Valentine’s Day feel so off that it all feels like a trap. I look at all that pink flowery shit and just say yuck.

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I feel you. It does feel like just a waste of money because most of the promoted gifts seem so meaningless, yet when you receive gifts, at least for me—it’s still sweet.

And all the perfect-life, true-love marketing makes many folks feel inadequate also.

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The trick is to somehow find something authentic amidst all that ... and it’s totally possible. Thank god my wife and I have 33 years to work this shit out. It wasn’t always easy!

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I totally agree! Haha and 33 years is amazing! Please share all your relationship secrets!

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I have that Halberstam book, Female Masculinity, off the butch list.

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Nice! I’ve read Stone Butch Blues, but not many of the others. I’ll have to check that out!

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It's super academic and kina dated, but. Still worth a look.

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How is Stone Butch Blues? Also, it looks like it might be kina hard to find a copy?

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I found my copy. It’s good! I hereby declare you the giveaway winner and shall send it to you along with the other surprises. 🥰 Happy Galentine’s day and drop me your address by email.

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Aw, yay!! 😄 Will do!

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If my gal-pals would each offer to clean my toilet as a present... I could take a vacation for a couple of months. 😂

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Hahaha right! That would be nice!

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