So happy to have lived through both and a longer slower antiracism journey. I always think of Metoo as a second wave because there was an earlier wave of sexual abuse in the workplace awareness where all the classes came from everyone had to take at work. I don’t remember if that had a name. It was in the nineties. It really amazes me how it was a big deal but later by the time you get to Metoo, you find out there was still so much of it going on.
Third comment from another perspective; If you paid attention as the #metoo movement blossomed and rolled forth, its whole dynamic was millions of women saying, “That happened to me too”. It was a mass confession and testimony of pain experienced and a lament with hope things might finally change.
And things began to change. Predatory men who’d hid behind power structures had their power ripped away and their crimes exposed and we as a society awoke from a slumber to a rude reckoning. It was a massive upheaval of goodness over badness. A dawning awareness of so many hidden terrible acts and the selfish blind attitudes that empowered them. If during that time you were not listening and learning and rejoicing in new found freedoms from oppression and hopes for ending daily suffering then you are just a shitbag who somehow hasn’t become aware of or compassionate toward others lives around you…and so notably wrongheaded given the loud passionate volume of all the voices rising in lament and testimony. The old statement “Get a life” applies as your life is wanting.
The major point that so many on any social issue where a group is suffering oppression seem to fail so consistently —listen when people talk and their words say they are being hurt. Listen. Groups of people don’t make these things up, they are real and we must respond and stop what’s happening just as you would if a human fell in the water and started screaming they’re drowning.
Listen and believe. So simple. Run and jump in the pond. Yet so many want to snarkly comment that drowning person sure is annoyingly loud with all the screaming. Jeez could you drown somewhere else next time.
But those are a little bit cartoonish representations. What’s really usually happening is your groups social media voices or public leadership voices (pastors, bosses) are wanting to somehow gain more clout/power/money by trashing another group and getting you to follow them and so they lambast the crybabies who want to criticize our perfect country and you happily follow.
I love your wise words. This is spot on. When I really think about it, MeToo is likely the 2nd most successful American social movement of my lifetime, as I was born in 1982. Thinking gay marriage is the most successful in that time period.
Same comment from a different angle; It blows my mind that anybody could dislike #metoo — your daughter or your wife or your mother is or will be working at some company where it’s very possible some predatory bosses await them…and you don’t want to change the dynamics and protect them?
Sadly, it’s very possible it already happened to them but they never told you because you sit ensconced in the same power structure that aids and abets it…and that trauma they’ve buried deep within is now in your relationship not helping things at all. You are shooting your own foot. Literally insane and opposite of love.
It’s true, yet so many people seem to have a distaste for the movement or think it’s somehow harmful to society. It’s like a certain percentage of people must disagree no matter how illogical the counter argument…
Yes that strange phenomenon is just so hard to understand and that frustration is what made me go a little overboard with my trilogy of comments haha.
There’s something weird we’ve not fully deciphered yet about the aftermath backlashes of social change movements, like even formerly woke people now being against woke…I think when a group gets less oppressed and gains some freedom there’s a strange combination of they themselves now abusing their newfound upper hand (an understandable temptation) and the other group that already felt threatened now doubles down against them. We need to learn to emerge humbly while the aftermath all settles for our own good. The minute you emerge there’s another giant hand just waiting to slap you down. But it’s hard to say to the newly free don’t celebrate too hard or do the same thing to others that you just got freed from. Human nature is complex.
I love the #metoo movement because it shines a light in dark corners and discovers abuse and harm which no one should experience. I believe every human being on planet earth is infinitely valuable and equal and if we could really get that deep inside our minds we would never dream of harming one another, we would be aghast at the thought. It would be like harming your own child, something you would never do.
Why do we harm others or allow them to be harmed? Maybe we don’t love them as much as we love our children?
My favorite part of the #MeToo movement was women uniting. For me, the worst type of misogyny is when women hate on women. Male misogyny ruins us is incalculable ways, limits our potential, and extinguishes our light, so really nothing is worse than that. I’m just saying I love it when women support each other, actively listen and engage, and help each other out. How do I feel about #metoo now? I’m grateful women are still speaking out because bringing this evil into the light is the only way to overcome it. ♥️♥️♥️ to the #metoo ladies.
So happy to have lived through both and a longer slower antiracism journey. I always think of Metoo as a second wave because there was an earlier wave of sexual abuse in the workplace awareness where all the classes came from everyone had to take at work. I don’t remember if that had a name. It was in the nineties. It really amazes me how it was a big deal but later by the time you get to Metoo, you find out there was still so much of it going on.
Third comment from another perspective; If you paid attention as the #metoo movement blossomed and rolled forth, its whole dynamic was millions of women saying, “That happened to me too”. It was a mass confession and testimony of pain experienced and a lament with hope things might finally change.
And things began to change. Predatory men who’d hid behind power structures had their power ripped away and their crimes exposed and we as a society awoke from a slumber to a rude reckoning. It was a massive upheaval of goodness over badness. A dawning awareness of so many hidden terrible acts and the selfish blind attitudes that empowered them. If during that time you were not listening and learning and rejoicing in new found freedoms from oppression and hopes for ending daily suffering then you are just a shitbag who somehow hasn’t become aware of or compassionate toward others lives around you…and so notably wrongheaded given the loud passionate volume of all the voices rising in lament and testimony. The old statement “Get a life” applies as your life is wanting.
The major point that so many on any social issue where a group is suffering oppression seem to fail so consistently —listen when people talk and their words say they are being hurt. Listen. Groups of people don’t make these things up, they are real and we must respond and stop what’s happening just as you would if a human fell in the water and started screaming they’re drowning.
Listen and believe. So simple. Run and jump in the pond. Yet so many want to snarkly comment that drowning person sure is annoyingly loud with all the screaming. Jeez could you drown somewhere else next time.
But those are a little bit cartoonish representations. What’s really usually happening is your groups social media voices or public leadership voices (pastors, bosses) are wanting to somehow gain more clout/power/money by trashing another group and getting you to follow them and so they lambast the crybabies who want to criticize our perfect country and you happily follow.
I love your wise words. This is spot on. When I really think about it, MeToo is likely the 2nd most successful American social movement of my lifetime, as I was born in 1982. Thinking gay marriage is the most successful in that time period.
Same comment from a different angle; It blows my mind that anybody could dislike #metoo — your daughter or your wife or your mother is or will be working at some company where it’s very possible some predatory bosses await them…and you don’t want to change the dynamics and protect them?
Sadly, it’s very possible it already happened to them but they never told you because you sit ensconced in the same power structure that aids and abets it…and that trauma they’ve buried deep within is now in your relationship not helping things at all. You are shooting your own foot. Literally insane and opposite of love.
It’s true, yet so many people seem to have a distaste for the movement or think it’s somehow harmful to society. It’s like a certain percentage of people must disagree no matter how illogical the counter argument…
Yes that strange phenomenon is just so hard to understand and that frustration is what made me go a little overboard with my trilogy of comments haha.
There’s something weird we’ve not fully deciphered yet about the aftermath backlashes of social change movements, like even formerly woke people now being against woke…I think when a group gets less oppressed and gains some freedom there’s a strange combination of they themselves now abusing their newfound upper hand (an understandable temptation) and the other group that already felt threatened now doubles down against them. We need to learn to emerge humbly while the aftermath all settles for our own good. The minute you emerge there’s another giant hand just waiting to slap you down. But it’s hard to say to the newly free don’t celebrate too hard or do the same thing to others that you just got freed from. Human nature is complex.
I love the #metoo movement because it shines a light in dark corners and discovers abuse and harm which no one should experience. I believe every human being on planet earth is infinitely valuable and equal and if we could really get that deep inside our minds we would never dream of harming one another, we would be aghast at the thought. It would be like harming your own child, something you would never do.
Why do we harm others or allow them to be harmed? Maybe we don’t love them as much as we love our children?
Maybe we should.
I love this! Yes! Life is so precious. ❤️🙏
My favorite part of the #MeToo movement was women uniting. For me, the worst type of misogyny is when women hate on women. Male misogyny ruins us is incalculable ways, limits our potential, and extinguishes our light, so really nothing is worse than that. I’m just saying I love it when women support each other, actively listen and engage, and help each other out. How do I feel about #metoo now? I’m grateful women are still speaking out because bringing this evil into the light is the only way to overcome it. ♥️♥️♥️ to the #metoo ladies.
Ahh love this. I feel the same and unfortunately I wonder if MeToo helped or harmed women overall because the backlash has been intense.
I believe that there’s intense backlash whenever we speak out, and if we stop they win.